Making Friends In The Workplace &Nbsp; Breaking Through Tests.

A breakthrough in workplace friendship

First meeting - breaking ice

Apart from being well-dressed and having a good conversation, how do you make a good impression on your first meeting and become a pleasant person?

Self introduction, personal brand

When it comes to self introduction, most people may talk about hobbies, constellation blood types, family qualifications, but in business situations, the other party may not be interested in listening to you and talking about the great achievements of your life.

How can a good business introduce itself? Qiu Tianyuan, the chief executive of EPSON (EPSON) in Taiwan, China, believes that first of all, the time can not be too long, usually not more than 1 minutes, and secondly, to achieve 3 purposes: let others remember themselves, let others remember their expertise, and let others think of your expertise, and you will also be able to find you.

An individual is a brand. If you can't remember your name on important occasions, like a product that can't leave customers with an impression, it is hard to expect to sell yourself.

Qiu Tianyuan suggests that you can pick out a loud English name for yourself, or match your Chinese name with an adjective to make it easier to remember.

Secondly, it is concise and comprehensive to show its expertise. If the other person needs help in the future, he will be glad to help. Finally, to increase his availability, apart from the way of contact, he can leave his blog website and update the trend at any time.

Sincere attitude and focused eyes.

When you talk with people, your eyes are the most important way to convey your focus and sincerity.

Qiu Tianyuan believes that the best eye drop is the other's eyebrows, if the eye turns with the eye of the other side, it is easy to produce a sense of oppression, the eye, the nose, and because the view is too low, it is easy to give people the feeling of lack of self-confidence and timidity.

Make good use of business card management

To avoid meeting someone next time, you can use your business card as a good helper for quick memory.

Increase the depth of conversation

"Being remembered" brings a sense of "respectful" pleasure. The only way to remember each other at the first meeting and let the other person remember is to increase the time and depth of interaction.

Sometimes higher order people are willing to act in a friendly way to deal with interpersonal affairs. Instead, they will increase their impression. In some commercial occasions, if they know the meeting objects before, they might as well do some homework, understand each other's preferences and be considerate.

The feeling deepened gradually.

Colleagues and customers have to go further and become real friends. Mutual goodwill and trust are very important.

Chen Yumin, head of ThirdThinking company in Hongkong, said that from a psychological point of view, he would like a person, usually feel better about himself when he gets along with him.

With this extension, "please" can take the following small methods:

Find the advantages

If you appreciate each other, you should not be stingy with exports.

"Sincere praise" is not just a formula for "increasing prices on everything, but reducing people's age". You must observe your ability and find out the uniqueness of the other side.

Sharing performance

For a shallow employee, "sharing performance" is not easy, but it is often the key to winning good people.

Hu Peilan, the chairman of CITIC housing, said that even if he had the ability, he would not be bold enough to get into the early stage of organization. He could understand introverted and think in terms of "group" and easily win a good friendship.

Making surprises

The excitement brought by surprises may make the relationship go further, especially for slow people.

Wu Yaling, chairman of the new thinking international consultancy company, is going to put roses on every female colleague's desk before Valentine's day. After she left hospital, she did not forget to write a card, thank the doctor, "let the other person know clearly what you have done for me," you are very important to me, "especially to close friends.

Among them, the "handwritten" card is more sincere than "computer printing", and a lot of business letters can not be written one by one, or at least sign the letter, and it will be completely different.

If you are an important friend, you might as well write a card by hand.

Active inquiry needs

Most people like to be treated and treated enthusiastically. If you think of the "what do you do" thinking in Chinese, turn it into "MayIhelpyou?" (what can I help you?), believing that making friends will be much better.

Position conflict - except obstruction

Faced with different cross sectoral coordination, superiors, subordinates or competitors, several principles can stand firm and not hurt:

Take the initiative to tell your position and show goodwill.

When you stand against each other, tell your partner what you want to do and what you can do, and draw a blueprint for your future relationship.

For example, do employees and bosses really have no idea? Luo Ruizhe, managing director of Ogilvy, believes that in the face of employees, they can take the initiative to explain what can be done, and prove to employees that they can lead them to success. "It is true that they will respect you; you start to give them more responsibility and respect, and gradually give them more confidence to build mutual trust relationship," so that positive circulation can create a good friendship.

Reduce the cost of compromise

Wu Yaling said that when confronted with his position, he should first think about 3 questions: which concessions can be made? What must be done? What are the limits?

The interests of the parties are clearly measured. Next, we should try to reduce the possible losses to the other side.

The best atmosphere for negotiation should be to show sincerity so that both sides dare to go to the table and dare to go down the table.

Stand firm and soft

Try to be respectful of things and not people. First, to show respect for others, but to touch the limits of time, to stick to "polite insistence", to soften your body and avoid emotional changes will help negotiate successfully.

Breaking the mirror and reinterpreting it

It is no better way to rebuild a good old friend than a friend who has been in conflict.

Because of self-esteem, we must be very determined.

Wu Yaling stressed that before breaking the mirror, it is worth restoring whether the relationship is worth repairing. If the relationship is bad, it will cause obstacles to work, inconvenience to life, or really care about this person. Even if you are willing to take a low profile, you have to do 3 things:

First, show respect.

Let the other side unload the armed forces to have the possibility of re communication.

Sincere apology.

People are sensitive to perfunctory or carelessness. Since they are interested in "redoing the old good", they must be fully sincere in apology.

Silence is golden.

Be brave enough to face the harm you've done, but don't always put it in the pot.